Where’s YOUR Love Spot?

Jeannette Maw’s GoodVibe Blog entitled “Drawing the Line on Love” sparked a wonderful forum that explored a range of beliefs related to love and relationships. I encourage you to check it out.

Two quotes, provided by others, especially resonated with me:

“Love isn’t how you feel. It’s what you do.”
Proginoskes the cherubim, in Madeline L’Engle’s A Wind In The Door

“Love is misunderstood to be an emotion;
actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of being
in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others.”
David Hawkins: Internationally renowned psychiatrist, physician, researcher

Wow! Seeing and being with yourself and others from a perspective of love is alignment at its finest. Love really is our most natural state of being. From this point for view, love is a verb, but not necessarily something to work at, or do.

It can get confusing sometimes, yes?

We’re taught that love is something outside of our self. We end up treating love as something that can be lost, found or kept. Taking action from this perspective can be about retrieving and keeping love. It feels tricky, and like a lot of work to me.

Since the universe only knows how to match your energy, being with, or in love is a powerful means to attracting the love and life you desire. More and more, I am centering myself in love and am enjoying life with a new clarity, ease and freshness. I’m calling this my “love spot”. How about you?

How would you approach life if you nurtured the love that naturally exists within yourself first, and then decided how you want to share your love with others?

How would if feel, whether you are single or in a 20 year old relationship, to be smack dab in the middle of love?

Your answer to these two questions tell you what it feels to be in your own personalized love spot. What if love is as simple as nurturing your love spot? It is! This is your sweet spot. Since there is amazing, contagious energy in your love spot, the universe can only give you more and more love.

Hmmmm, I just had this image of women everywhere, hanging out in their love spot!!! Whew, talk about a revolution!

With much love,
Judy

Law of Attraction & LGBTQ Life, Love and Liberation

WHEW! We had a great FREE teleseminar last night! Over 30 women from across the country and Canada joined in the call. Seven women submitted questions that covered a wonderful spectrum of life, from politics, to love, to being out and proud.

I was blessed to have three of my favorite Law of Attraction and LGBT fans on the call with me. As promised, here is their contact information.

Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach, loves all things LOA, as you’ll find on her revealing “LOA for the Real World” blog (www.goodvibeblog.com) and her coaching home page (www.goodvibecoach.com).

Lise Rubarth, is a creative community builder, technodyke and webmaster extraordinaire. She started Triangle Grrrls (http://trianglegrrrls.com) a few years ago and has just launched Social Girlz (http://socialgirlz.com) a new social networking site for lesbians in the San Francisco bay area.

Karen Olson, a professional counselor living in Tucson, AZ, is passionate about helping people create conscious love in their relationships, AND holistic healing. She recently opened a wellness center, Caritas, (www.caritashealing.com).

I’m getting a little technical help and will have the recording available on this web page for all to enjoy.

Let’s stay in touch! Let me know what resonated with you and any subsequent questions that we stirred up.

with much love,

Judy

Do You Want a Pittance, or Provenance?

Are you feeling happy and completely free to have the love, family and relationships you desire?Are you enjoying your unique sense of love, family, gender and sexuality?

Can you imagine feeling this much joy and freedom all the time?

Enjoying the little, and the large liberating parts of your day is an amazing magnetic act. Remember, the Law of Attraction ensures that the universe brings you more of what ever has your focus and attention.

Now, THIS is my kind of law!

This universal law means that a life full of love, fun, freedom, health and fabulous relationships is yours. You begin attracting your desires the moment you enjoy these qualities as they exist in your life today. Relishing what’s going well multiplies very quickly!!

Can you see how each of us living the life we desire creates a mighty liberation movement?!

This isn’t the established path to political freedom, is it? Usually, we are taught that liberty is a struggle. We are most often directed to focus on what we don’t have or who is against us.

Somewhere we learned that we need something/someone outside ourselves, like institutional laws, to sanction our love and families. Believe me; I do want laws to support me.

I believe we liberate ourselves every time we act with love to create our life as if all the laws in the world support us.  Laws always follow people’s lives.  There are a zillion ways, and a zillion people who are promoting a full range of liberated love and family experiences. I want to extend my many thanks to all those LGBTQ and allied people who intentionally  create their life daily.  Is there anything more powerful than love?

Check out this video from Abraham-Hicks if you want more information about how the law of attraction enhances LGBT Rights.

Surfing in the Desert

One of my goals for this year is to learn to surf. OHHHHH, I can feel myself in that zone where I am simultaneously connected AND free. I imagine myself being centered in my body, like when I do yoga, and carried along with something powerful, as if in the front row in a roller coaster. Whew! This is my kind of heaven!

I’ve surrounded myself with women surfers since making this goal in January. I have a 2008 women’s surfing calendar, a woman surfing as my computer desktop background, and a picture of a woman surfing on my dream board with the words ‘hot damn’ in a bubble coming out of her mouth. Yes! 2008 is the year Judy Kinney learns to surf.

It’s June and I’m well aware that I’ve yet to put any surfing plans in place. Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve had several messages about surfing cross my path. In my June monthly CD, Abraham uses a surfing metaphor to encourage all of us to enjoy the process. Abe notes that the thrill of catching that one great wave is worth all the paddling, waiting, and falling that inevitably comes with surfing.

It was about this time that I realized that I have been surfing this year. Yes, even from my home in the Arizona desert, I’ve caught some sweet, fine waves. Who needs a board and water? I’m still riding a great curl as I welcome a sweet, hot, and fun love into my life. I’ve caught wave after wave of inspiration, support, and fun this past six months with my coaching business start up. I’ve also jumped aboard many a wave with my family as my 90 year old mom ages on her terms.

I’m not saying that the ride has been smooth sailing-that isn’t what I ordered. I want the thrill of feeling ME IN THE ZONE-connected AND free. Since adopting this “life is surfing” metaphor, I am much more relaxed about those aspects of my life that feel like paddling, floating, waiting and falling. These are integral facets to inevitably catching great waves, yes?

So, I wonder . . . who else is making a similar connection between a physical passion and your alignment. Does your passion for riding your bike fast downhill, doing yoga, rock climbing, rafting, dancing, or walking help you understand and tap into your natural alignment?

Meanwhile, surf’s up in Tucson!

Law of Attraction and LGBTQ Liberation

As many of you know, I was a social worker for 25+ years before becoming a Law of Attraction Coach. I’ve always worked to create room for others to have the life they desire. A very simplified version of my thinking during my social worker years was: “I make the world better by fighting injustice”.

As I’ve integrated Law of Attraction into my way of looking at the world, the message inside my head has changed. Now I say “I influence the world most effectively just by being true to me.” In other words, I’m a revolutionary’s revolutionary just by naturally living true to my spirit. My spirit, like all spirits, wants me to conjure up my perfect world and then welcome it exactly as I desire. Can you imagine making the world a better place just by enjoying your life?!

So, these days, I LOVE inspiring LBQ women to also have the life they desire. What could be more far reaching than thousands of lesbian, bi and queer women happily living their lives, while emphatically knowing that “all is well”?!!!

So, imagine my delight to view a video that was publicly released today about Law of Attraction and LGBT people’s liberation. Check out the powerful new video of Abraham-Hicks speaking about the Law of Attraction and LGBTQ liberation.

Damn! It’s about time!

What are your thoughts and reactions?

THIS is exactly the conversations I can’t wait to have with you! Talk to me here, by email, in my classes or in 1:1 coaching.

Flourish on!

Judy

Friends First continued. . . .

If you’re a single LBQ woman who is interested in dating, you’re probably familiar with the phrase “friends first”. Oh my gosh, this phrase has aroused my suspicions. I’ve been talking about “friends first” for weeks now. Thanks everyone for chatting with me. I’ve relaxed a lot, broadened my perspective and clarified my beliefs and desires.

Still, I wonder how often a belief that “if I get it right this time, I’ll avoid the pain I’ve experienced in the past” is underneath “friends first” and many of our challenges with dating.

Whew, talk about walking a tight rope! How would you approach love and romance if you were free of the pressure to “get it right to avoid pain”?

Martha Beck has brought therapist and researcher Steven Hayes’ idea of “clean pain and dirty pain” to the masses through her coaching, new book “Steering by Starlight” and articles in Oprah Magazine. Clean pain is our natural response to something hurtful.

Of course you experience a range of grief, sadness, anger, and frustration if you are in a car wreck, experience a friend’s death, or break up with your girlfriend. Following your natural built in healing process would, in time, take you to a place of peace and resolution. We are designed to heal.

Dirty pain happens when your mind explains a hurtful experience via some other belief you hold. For example, dirty pain thoughts about the car wreck could lead you to think “everything bad always happens to me”, “those people don’t know how to drive” or “if I had a newer, faster car this never would have happened”. Fear and avoidance are central to dirty pain. Dirty pain keeps kicking far beyond the initial hurtful incident. OUCH!

Can you see how dirty pain could be polluting your approach to love and romance?

How do you know if your pathway to romance and love is clear or muddied?

• Do you feel free?
• Are you having fun and enjoying the journey?
• Do you feel genuine, relaxed and confident?

Yes, feeling good is your guide to having what you desire. I imagine that there are aspects of love and romance where you’re feeling good and relaxed, yes? These feel good spots become the perfect launching pad for more liberated love and romance.

Flourish on,
Judy